On Grief:

I studied grief.
I learned about phases, cycles, stages.
And then, my own mother died.
I wasn’t comforted by theory
nor did it help me make sense of things.
I could barely read my 20+ books on grief anyway.

That’s when things got real for me:
learning grief from the inside out.

You know what helped most of all?

Other people.
People who could hear me.
People who could witness me,
without flinching.

Here’s what I now know about grief:

Your grief is your own.

Everything is changed.

Nothing feels okay.

Grief delivers a huge physical wallop.

People who get it help ease the pain.

If I can be of help to you, please contact me.

I won’t flinch. Promise.